April 17, 2009

Marriage is such a Foreign Thing

Filed under: Uncategorized — numist @ 8:54 pm

Cindy and I have been thinking a lot about marriage in the recent months, and it’s good to see other people with similar thoughts.

My own parents, when I tried to spell out the thought process behind our UnWedding, were understandably confused. “Why not just get married?” my mother asked me.

I did my best to explain how foreign and austere the concept of married life felt to me, but I don’t think I succeeded in making a connection. After all, my mother’s generation didn’t grow up amongst 52 percent divorce rates. And even though I personally have a good number of friends who once lived so-called bohemian lives, and who have since gotten legally hitched, I also know a decent number of smart people with no interest whatsoever in the wedded life.

To be perfectly honest, I’m not really sure why that is. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that so many of my peers grew up in broken homes? Maybe it’s a result of the decline of family values? It’s tough to say. But one thing is for sure: Traditional American marriage in is changing fast, and in a major way.

from Marriage Without Monogamy


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